There is Always a Way Out

You might find this particular message to be too harsh or cruel, but I understand, because years ago I would have agreed with you. I would have argued until I was blue in the face, that I would never in a million years be the cause of my own lemons. "Why would I do that? You're telling me it is a woman's fault that her man is abusing her? It is a woman's fault that her man is cheating on her? It is a woman's fault that her boss is being rude and disrespectful toward her?"
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I am not saying that it is actually a woman's fault that people/men act the way they act. What I am saying is that the ball is always in our court. It was scary for me to face the realization that the ball is in my court. We are so accustomed to the pain, that we choose the known pain over the unknown power we possess. 
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Have you read the book The Count of Monte Cristo, by Alexandre Dumas? It is one of my favorite books--not just because of the beautiful story, but mostly because of the main character's determination not to accept life's unfairness. Wrongfully accused, he was eventually able to escape from a nearly-impossible prison situation. He wanted so badly to get out, and he found a way. (I would highly recommend this book--or the movie.)
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I am sure you saw the Oscar award-winning movie Schindler's ListI saw it only once, because I can't bring myself to watch it a second time; it is a heavy movie. But I would certainly recommend watching it once. It is based on the true story of a factory owner who saved 1,200 Jews from the World War II concentration camps. There is one specific scene that I will probably remember for the rest of my life, in which some children hide in a wooden toilet, sunk all the way up to their chins in poop, while the Gestapo search the area. It is truly a heartfelt scene, but again, they want to get out--and they find a way. 
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Every time I find myself in a situation that seems to have no way out, I think about The Count of Monte Cristo and those children: if they found their way out of a life-and-death situation, then I can do it, too. There is always a way out--always! But first, you have to be motivated enough to find it--because NO ONE ELSE will find it for you!

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